Time for an Inner Critic Intervention

Published on July 6, 2012

 

Starting a new company is a big undertaking. No doubt. There are so many things to get done that when doing it solo, the to-do list can seem virtually endless.

I certainly can relate. Having launched our own coaching company in 2011 after having worked for a large corporate coaching firm for four years was a whirlwind - and there were two of us doing it together!

It seemed like my inner critic was smacking me on the head daily telling me about all the things that needed to get done and how far behind I was. I would start out the day with great enthusiasm and excitement only to go to bed thinking that I was a big fat failure.

Celebrate daily progress. Success results from the compound effect.

The truth. We were making progress. Every day that we worked on our business was a success. Intellectually we all know that successful companies don’t spring up over night (or even in a year, 2 years, or 3) so why do we think that after 30 days in business we should have a fully functioning and highly profitable entity?

  • Instant gratification I suppose. We like everything to happen fast in this day and age.
  • Ego maybe? We like to look successful and anything less feels like failure.
  • Noise from our inner critic. Sometimes the sounds of self-doubt are deafening.

Tell your inner critic to shut the hell up.

Even the most confident entrepreneur has a loud mouthed inner critic. My friend calls this her itty bitty shitty criticizing committee. You can’t make it go away entirely, so just make it a point to acknowledge him when he shows up and quickly smack him down.

He represents all those pre-programmed messages that no longer serve you, but that you have filed away under “good advice, words of wisdom, or tough love.”

Just push those files to the back under a new category marked “Bullshit - Do not disturb.”

Whether your inner critic is loud and obnoxious or quiet and passive aggressive, she is there in the background. You aren’t alone. We all have one.

I had someone tell me one time that I seemed so confident. They were right, I seemed that way. It’s because I have gotten pretty good at putting my inner critic in her place.

There are days though... days where we duke it out for 12 hours straight. 

Make no mistake. Your success hinges on your ability to acknowledge your inner critic and then take charge of him.

Take a moment today to have an inner critic intervention. It may be the most important conversation you have all week!

 

 

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  • Oh, you speak my language. I love working to silence the inner critics and ego…yay! I relate so much, since I’m a coach too and run my own biz. I realized recently that there will always be a very long to-do list, but that’s a good thing, I reason. Much better than working in the cube. I like to use my music to quiet my inner critic. There’s nothing like learning to play “Iron Man” on electric guitar to make it shut up…heehee! 🙂

  • Christin Smith99

    Totally agree.  Need to put that critic in its box!

  • Nikki: Humor and tough love…a good combo for dealing with the Inner Critic.  I’ve just posted on this topic myself, different approach…..for me tough love can often trigger another layer of the critic….