Archive for 2013

The SoulFire of Nelson Mandela

Written on December 18, 2013 at 2:45 pm

nelson Mandela

Nelson Mandela had it.

He had SoulFire.

It's hard to imagine any global figure who better embodied the quality we know as "SoulFire."

You know that I talk and write about SoulFire agents and encourage you to grow this part of yourself that can zoom a real estate business to greater heights and your personal life to unimagined peace.

But the death of the man they call "Mandiba" in South Africa caused me to pause and revel in the SoulFire that he took to an entirely different level.

Think about this and really put yourself in his shoes.

South Africa …

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Don’t Let Illusion Defeat You: Think SoulFire

Written on September 11, 2013 at 5:09 pm

The picture posted below is what inspired me to write on the topic of illusion.

I mean, look at that! It's an illusion of the highest order. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines illusion as “the state or fact of being intellectually deceived or misled.”

When I write about SoulFire, when I discuss SoulFire agents, when I coach on how to live a SoulFire life, what I'm talking about is the ability to cut through the illusion.

Your life is loaded with illusion and, in fact, much of what we perceive daily is just that. Each of us goes through …

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Why You Want to be a “Surprisologist”

Written on August 1, 2013 at 6:45 pm

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou

The quote from Maya Angelou above is a beloved one and for good reason: down deep, we all understand that how someone or something makes us feel is typically a memory that can surpass all else.

And that's why the notion of surprises is such a treasured thing. We all love surprises, whether it be a gift, a party, or someone simply doing something that makes us feel different...special...pleasured...the list of adjectives …

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3 Myths About Specializing

Written on June 24, 2013 at 11:57 am

by Nikki Buckelew

We all know that when you narrow your focus you increase your results. So why is it that so many agents resist specialization?

Myth #1:  I will lose other opportunities.

Reality: When you create a specialty, you elevate yourself and increase your overall credibility. Just as cardiac surgeons are still looked upon as capable general physicians, they are also seen as superior in their field. People understand that not only could they do a heart bypass, they can also put 4 stitches in your kid’s knee.

Not only will the people in your sphere see you in …

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Learning About Life and Real Estate from Taylor Swift and “The Voice.”

Written on June 10, 2013 at 1:41 pm

by Nikki Buckelew

I don't typically watch “The Voice” on NBC, the singing talent show that's all the rage. And I haven't spent a ton of time – until now - dissecting how the success of Taylor Swift can translate into success in real estate and life.

But a friend and colleague of mine - Mark Bingaman - recently brought up a couple of points concerning those two entertainment giants that made some sense.

On a recent episode of “The Voice,” one of the show's judges (and country superstar) Blake Shelton marveled at the talent of a 16 year-old contestant …

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Do You Feel Like a Square Peg Trying to Fit Into a Round Hole?

Written on May 29, 2013 at 12:37 pm

by Nikki Buckelew

This weekend I was sitting with my one year-old granddaughter as she played with her toys. We have one in particular that she finds quite frustrating - it’s the one that requires you to match the correct shape with the corresponding hole in the box in order to push it through.

I love the toy myself because I know after she has tried the star block in every hole she eventually finds the star shaped hole and pushes it through. Of course we do this over and over again before she finally realizes that the square blocks …

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I Dare You to Be Different

Written on May 20, 2013 at 5:46 pm

 

Are you wearing a badge of honor that says “I’m so busy that I can’t even stop to eat or pee?”

You may laugh, but if I had a quarter for every time a Realtor said some variation of that phrase outloud, I could retire comfortably. Something happens when people get into real estate. It is as if people adopt the idea that running mach 3 with their hair on fire is a good thing - like it’s required...or somehow expected.

We did it too. Chris and I both bought into the idea that busy meant successful - that …

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Real Estate Sales and the Law of Least Effort

Written on May 19, 2013 at 5:00 pm

If you have ever read or listened to Deepak Chopra’s Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, you have probably heard of the fourth law, The Law of Least Effort.

This law says that nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease and carefree abandonment. It’s a lesson that nature has tried to teach us, but many of us just ignore it as if we are the exception to all nature.

As Deepak Chopra says in his audio series,

“Grass doesn’t try to grow... it just grows.”

“Birds don’t try to fly...they just fly.”

“Fish don’t try to swim...they just swim.”

“It is the …

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