Natural to Disaster – Out of Practice for Sure

Published on October 2, 2012

Ok, so now that I have had a chance to reflect, it occurs to me that “disaster” may be overstating it just a bit. Let’s just say that I was very discombobulated as I headed out for Columbus, OH to teach a 3 hour continuing education class at the Ohio Association of Realtors convention this week.

I rarely feel this way about traveling. A bit out of control. Scattered. Fuzzy headed. Clear one moment and totally off the wall the next. I am usually pretty put together...prepared...capable.

There were a few other signs that I was not on my game beforehand, but it became glaringly clear to me that I was not myself as I tried to board the flight at gate 7 headed to Phoenix. This is especially important since my flight was headed to Baltimore. Not good.

OK. Take inventory. Reassess. Get a grip, Nikki. 

Yes, my flight leaves out of gate 7 and yes, I am on time. The flight before mine is running late. Shew...No worries...could have happened to anyone, right?

Time to board. Where the hell are my boarding passes? I just had them. In fact, I tried to use one to board the wrong flight just minutes ago. What the heck?

“Is there a Dianne Buckelew (yes, Dianne is my first name) in the gate area please,” the man announced over the loud speaker. Some nice soul had picked up my boarding passes and given them to the gate agent.

Rescued again... thank you kind soul.

Wonder where I left them?

Those are the two big ones. The others were just an overall lack of preparedness like not remembering to have my ID ready as I approached security then forgetting to take out my liquids until JUST before my bag went through xray (cardinal sin during peak commuter travel times). Geesh, what is wrong with me?

Maybe it is was just the physical exhaustion of my body trying to expel this nasty stomach virus that reeked havoc on me the last few days or possibly I could attribute it to the near miss 22 car pile up that I narrowly avoided on the highway en route to the airport today. I did stop to call 911 and let the driver make a report which put me in a real time crunch (tough call, but I thought it seemed like the right thing to do).

The truth is... I am just out of practice. I don’t travel as much as I used to. When I was flying 3 or 4 (sometimes 5 or 6) times a week for a couple of years I had it down to a science. Reminded myself of George Clooney in Up in the Air! 

When we get out of practice it takes more time, energy, and attention in order to complete a task that once was like second nature. Once a habit is firmly in place, muscle memory takes over and makes our lives so much easier.

What areas are you out of practice? 

Eating healthy?

Exercising daily?

Calling clients?

Following up on leads?

Writing in your blog?

Writing thank you notes?

Catching your kid (or spouse) doing something good?

Meditating or praying?

Taking personal time for self care?

Are you finding yourself discombobulated - frustrated with the process of trying to get back into the flow of doing something you have gotten away from?

Here are a few tips for getting back on the proverbial horse when you have fallen off of it. 

  1. Accept that you are discombobulated. Embrace your awkwardness. Be OK with being  where you are. It will come back ... you will find your flow again. Create a guilt free zone. No one is judging you except you. Just accept that you are where you are. Love yourself for deciding to get back on the horse and just accept that your butt will hurt until you are used to the saddle again.
  2. Take time to prepare. Revisit what worked in the past. Chances are you had systems that you used before that worked, so dust them off and re-implement them. This could  also be a good time to evaluate what you liked and what you didn’t like about the way you did it before and improve upon it this time around.
  3. Give yourself some grace and the gift of celebrating your past successes with this endeavor. Remind yourself of how good you are at it.
  4. Get some support. Let your supporters know that you “are back, Jack” and tell them how they can best help you achieve your goals.
  5. Take it one step at a time. Chances are you won’t be at the top of your game in the first inning. Never fear ... Kaizen steps are here. With small steps taken consistently over time you will accomplish what you set out to accomplish. Before you know it, you will be performing this task once again like it was second nature.

The goal...getting back to flow. You can do it. I know you can.

As for me, I made it on the CORRECT flight and was happily enjoying my Diet Coke and peanuts as I courtesy of Southwest Airlines as I wrote this and was looking forward to spending an amazing couple of days with my REALTOR friends in Columbus, Ohio.

O-H... I-O. Gotta love those Buckeyes!

Can't wait to share my nuggets from the training with you in a future post!



Nikki Buckelew is the Co-Founder and President of Coaching and Training, a coaching and training company specializing in real estate, leadership, and life coaching for Realtors, brokers, and leaders with SoulFire. Buckelew is also the Founder and CEO of the Seniors Real Estate Institute, a coaching and training company specializing in senior real estate and housing and administrator for the Certified Senior Housing Professional® (CSHP) designation.



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