What Were You Thinking?

Published on March 22, 2012

So much of what we do these days is done on auto-pilot. People just aren’t “thinking.” 

Consider for a moment the following scenario...

You roll out of bed, brush your teeth, shower, shuffle to the coffee pot, hussle the kids out of the house or take the pets out for you know what, drive to the office, boot up the computer, check the email, update your Facebook status, check your messages, and then.... the whims of the world take over for the next 7 or 8 hours.

Until... the end of the day, you finish your last email, return your last phone call, pick up the kids, grab the take out for dinner, drive home, slide out of your shoes into something more comfortable, pour a glass of wine, and sink into the softness of a comfy chair to the sounds of your favorite evening TV drama or sitcom.

Upon realizing that you are fully exhausted, you rise to your feet, shuffle to the sink, brush your teeth, and then crawl into the bed as you set your alarm to do it all over again tomorrow.


How did I do? Well, minus the frantic evening of carpooling to sports practices and music lessons for those who still have younger kids, I probably captured the day and the life of 80% of our working population.


My question is - When do people stop to “THINK?” Seriously. I am finding more and more people bemoaning the fact that they have no time to just BE.


When I suggest to people they may be due for some down time, many just laugh at me and ask, “when?” That scares me a bit.


I too had the life described above. I had it for a lot of years. In the past 18 months I have decided that it just no longer serves me.


Reason #1: I was tired of being tired and wanted to have more FUN.

Reason #2: I was tired of allowing others to dictate a life to me that wasn’t in alignment with my values.

Reason #3: I was beginning to see the toll it was taking on my health & relationships.


So when do YOU stop and think? I’m curious. 

  • Are you spending time enjoying the fruits of your labor?
  • Are you taking time to care for your health and wellbeing?
  • Are you disconnecting with the world and connecting with your center?
  • Are you accepting what the media and politicians are saying as truth?
  • Are you happy? And if not, have you stopped long enough to consider why?


When we turn off our brains and just allow the world to direct our actions and our feelings, we are abdicating our most basic human right and desire: Freedom. 

We are allowing “society” or some person or organization to design our lives when we choose not to think and develop our own sense of self. Giving up our freedom to THINK is the ultimate sacrifice.

What are you doing to develop your sense of self? Here are a few things to consider as ways to reclaim your personal identity and live authentically in your uniqueness.

  • Journal daily. Spend time putting your thoughts on paper. Ask yourself what YOU think about things and answer your own questions. You have the answers. They are within you when you really become aware of yourself.
  • Read. Read books that inspire your thinking, challenge your beliefs, and cause you to ask more questions.
  • Disconnect. Take time off from social media, internet, and your smart phone. Spend some time in nature or in meditation.
  • Find a hobby. Get back to the things you wanted to do before life got in the way. Enroll in an art class, pick up an instrument, play a sport, start cooking.
  • Be creative. Get the coloring books and crayons out and spend time being a child. Color outside the lines just because you can. Don’t judge yourself...just have fun.
  • Celebrate! Look for the small successes every day and do a little happy dance in appreciation for them.

You were created as a ‘creator’ - listen to your little voice inside and then spend some time in thought daily. 

And the next time someone asks, “What were you thinking? You will have a great answer!




Nikki and Chris Buckelew are recognized international real estate coaches, trainers, and speakers. Their specialties include sales, seniors real estate, and leadership coaching.  Clients who hire Nikki and Chris are often seeking assistance in increasing their profitability without sacrificing their health, relationships, and core values. For more information visit www.NikkiandChris.com.

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